So while I am getting better with age, I have had difficulty switching with people in the past.
Frequently if I top someone I don't want to bottom to them or if I have bottomed to them and then I top them it is difficult for me to bottom to them again. AS I said this is changing and I do also know that it can be a direct reflection on the person I am playing with....many times I have had people not want to top me after I have topped them.
The question is, have others experienced anything similar?
How do you deal with it or do you?
My Top goes into subspace frequently. I think I'm an amature in comparison with how deeply he involves himself in a submissive state.
It's very fluid for us to roll change; but it isn't exactly bottoming. He usually has a direction to his journey (I'd call it topping from the bottom but it doesn't meet that criteria either). He's topping from sub space.
Hard to describe, but as I've always been a switch it seems so natural to both of us that it works.
I used to play with a woman who couldn't even let someone top her after she's seen them bottom elsewhere. Strike that. She couldn't bottom to a male Dom she'd ever seen sub; she had no problem with women. I never understood that...
Switch the other bi.
According to the World Health Organization there are over 100 million sex acts in the world every day. That’s over 69,000 people achieving orgasm this very minute. For food we have sauces and spices to vary our diet; for sex— we have toys. The adult industry adds spice to our lives.
~ Metis Black